I spotted a newspaper cartoon where a grandmother was promoting her book. She told the audience “My book came out in the fall, so I insisted it have a jacket.”
We can laugh at the fuddy-duddy advice, but the guidance from a grandparent is usually right on the money.
My Grandma Marguerite had quite a few sayings, but my favorite was never turn down an opportunity to go out, even if you’re not overly fond of the person asking. You never know who’ll see you when you’re out and they’ll know you’re available.
“Remember to have fun along the way” was how she signed all of her letters and cards, and I am reminded of her wise words when the day ends on a happy note.
My mom has all kinds of subtle advice, and her grandchildren and great-grandchildren soak up what she says and doesn’t say.
Their “Siti” has taught them to always have food in the house, especially cookies, to offer a guest because nobody leaves her house hungry.
She’s taught them to make other people know they’re important without slighting anyone else.
That’s because she pays attention when her grandchildren talk to her and she’s overjoyed when they come to visit.
Grandmothers will usually insist you wear a sweater or socks when it’s cold outside. It doesn’t matter that the house is the same temperature in the winter as it is in the summer – cold weather outside means grandchildren must bundle up.
I think it’s in the grandmother manual.
Grandmothers and grandfathers dispense similar advice and most can do so without aggravating their grandchildren.
Parents can say the same thing, but grandparents have a way of softening the advice yet still getting the grandkids to pay attention.
To young children, some grandparents smell a little funny. Most of the time, it’s Old Spice or Mr. Clean but I like to think that smell is experience and there’s no way to get rid of life’s perfume.
Grandparents will also let their grandchildren stay up late because they know a little leniency goes a long way toward building a strong relationship.
And, like their grandchildren, grandparents sometimes like breaking the rules.
They’ll ask their grandchildren to eat their vegetables, but they don’t insist. Grandparents are honest – chocolate cake does taste better than lima beans.
Grandparents also remember the naughty things their now-grown children did when they were younger.
When they hear their son or daughter carrying on with the grandchildren about mistakes, they gently remind said parent that they did the exact same thing when they were that age and to maybe go a little easy on the kid.
We have a couple of extra dollars when the ice-cream truck is coming down the street or in the check-out line at the grocery store.
Grandparents always have extra hugs and, most of the time, we take our time because we know how fast little ones grow up.
We don’t want to straighten you out, we want to spend time with you, listen to you, talk with you, read to you, walk with you and enjoy every minute we get to spend with you.
We don’t need you to mow the grass, wash your clothes or sweep the floor. We just want you to be you.
So indulge us a bit if we insist you wear a sweater outside. Because of all the people you’ll meet in the world outside of your parents and siblings, you’ll never find anyone who adores you more than your grandparents.
So put on that sweater. It’s a little chilly outside.
This column was originally published in The Fort Bend Herald.