Rest in peace, Mr. Bauerlin

    He died on Memorial Day, fitting as Bert Bauerlin’s service to country during World War II was one of his proudest achievements. But for my family, “Mr. Bert” was our mom’s boyfriend and the second grandfather to my sister’s family.

When my sister and her family moved to Virginia, Bert and Mary Bauerlin were their friendly neighbors. I remember my niece and nephews always talking about Mr. Bauerlin – watching him tinker around in the garage and telling stories – and the love they had for their next-door adopted grandfather was evident.

When Mary passed away, my sister and her family grieved with Bert and, as the years passed, learned to go on. Then one day, Bert noticed the attractive widow visiting next door, and Bert and my mother began talking.

Theirs was a conversation that lasted over 10 years. Every night at precisely 10, my mom’s phone would ring and everything came to an abrupt pause while Mom had her conversation with Bert.

We didn’t mind. In fact, we were reassured that someone was checking on Mom every day. Bert’s children were also reassured their father had someone checking on him every day. 

Bert never missed a holiday – Christmas, Mother’s Day, Mom’s birthday and Valentine’s Day always meant a knock at the door with a beautiful arrangement of fresh-cut flowers. Mom loved talking about Bert, and she actually blushed when we’d tease her about her boyfriend.

Bert kept up with the accomplishments and escapades of the Hebert family, and we kept up with the comings and goings of the Bauerlin family. Mom and Bert’s vacations always included stops at their children’s’ homes, especially when they were on the way to Bert’s favorite getaway – his Navy reunions.

The last one they attended was tinged with sadness as so many of the World War II veterans were passing away. The trips grew harder now that most were in their late 80’s or early 90s.

He also loved coming to Mardi Gras in Louisiana, and that’s the only time I met Bert in person. He was gracious and smiling and knew something about everyone from my mother’s stories.

He especially wanted to thank me for sending him one of my favorite movies, “Searching for Bobby Fisher” because Bert was an avid chess player and he loved the story of father and son bonding over the art of chess.

We were all so grateful Bert had come into my mother’s life and she into his.  They shared the same memories from growing up in the Depression to listening to Patsy Cline’s “Crazy” to muttering about the downhill slide of the American youth.

They needed each other to appreciate the old days and to understand the present ones.

Last year, Bert ended up in an assisted living center to recuperate from an illness. The 88-year-old desperately wanted to go back to living on his own terms where he could watch his black-and-white movies of The Duke and Charles Bronson without interruption.

But his health began to deteriorate, and the sharp, quick-witted and self-sufficient Bert began to grow fainter. For Mom, not getting that 10 p.m. phone call was devastating, but she came to gradually accept that the Bert she knew was, little by little, fading.

And although we grieve that Bert’s no longer here, Mom said he’s passed to the next level and that’s what he wanted.

I shall always think fondly of Bert whenever I look at an American flag, knowing how proud he was to have served his country.

Rest well, Mr. Bert. You’ve earned it.

 This article was published in The Fort Bend Herald.

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Take me out to the ballgame

I’m exasperated if it takes Google longer than 30 seconds to load.

I’m tapping my foot impatiently if I’m in the slow line at the market.

I completely blow a fuse when the driver at the front of the left-turn lane is asleep when the green arrow flashes and I have to sit through an extra light cycle.

So I’m wondering why it is I love to watch baseball games, a sport that moves at its own pace.  Over the past two weeks, I’ve watched a baseball game at Minute Maid Park – where Nolan Ryan walked past me and I didn’t realize it was the great pitcher until he’d rounded the corner – and in Sugar Land to watch the Skeeters play.

In Houston, the Astros tickets were a lot more expensive, and we had to shell out money to park. Both had overpriced drinks and processed cheese nachos, but that 25-minute drive home in Fort Bend County was a lot easier than the 45-minute trek from downtown Houston.

Both parks buzz with activity before the games. At Minute Maid, the outfield was meticulously groomed, and scores of workers raked the infield so that not a footprint was left.

They did the same at Constellation Field although it was hard to keep the field immaculate with so many youngsters on the infield for pictures and awards.

What’s the same at both parks is that all fans want their home team to win. They know the  players’ bios by heart, boo the umpire when there’s a bad call and cheer like mad when a baseball soars into home-run territory.

Both teams love the youngsters. The Skeeters organization honored a variety of youngsters before the game started. Fans were clapping and laughing good naturedly as star-struck 5-year-old Little Leaguers ran from first base over the pitcher’s mound and then across the field to their moms.

At the Astros game, people stood and applauded as a young cancer patient stood on the pitcher’s mound, took his wind up and threw the ball to home plate. Catcher Jason Castro ran the ball back to the young boy and then signed it for him.

I don’t think there was a dry eye in the place when Castro gave that young boy a hug before heading back to the dugout.

When it was time for the first pitch, excitement filled the air, even though the Astros aren’t having that great of a season. That’s because true fans never doubt their team will rally and put runs on the board. And the fans are what make both the Skeeters games and the Astros games so special.

At Minute Maid, we chatted with Julie, a plain-clothed security guard in our section. She said she’d been coming to the ball park for over 10 years, and she never tired of the crack of the bat, the sounds of the crowd cheering when an Astros player smacked a ball out to the Crawford Boxes and of seeing the youngsters clutching their well-oiled mitts to their chests, hoping they’ll catch a foul ball.

They should never stop hoping because when we were at the Astros game, two twins, well into their 70s, were lucky and quick enough to catch a foul ball when it came their way.

The smile on their face could’ve belonged to one of those 5-year olds running the bases at any baseball game in any stadium in the United States.

So I’ll still honk my horn in agitation at the daydreaming driver at the front of the left-turn lane but I’ll sit back in my seat at the ball park and happily sing – “take me out to the ball game.”

 

This column was originally published in The Fort Bend Herald.

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Stepping back in history

  There’s a story in Texas folklore about a freed slave, Celia Allen, who ran a small bread bakery in a  settlement called San Felipe de Austin, named after Stephen F. Austin who came to settle a new land back in 1824. Three hundred families followed him to a country on the cusp of revolution.

San Felipe de Austin was a bustling place where settlers received their land grants and headed out into the wilds of Texas. The revolution caught up with them, and in 1836, settlers burned the entire town during the Runaway Scrape so Santa Anna could not set up camp there or find any provisions.

San Felipe de Austin faded from Texas history as settlements like Washington-on-the-Brazos and the Alamo took a more prominent place in the books.

In the 1920s, the community decided to preserve and highlight the importance of San Felipe. According to Bryan McAuley, the San Felipe de Austin State Historical Site Manager, locals started building up the site.

We learned these facts, and much more, when we drove over to San Felipe de Austin State Historical Site 35 miles west of Rosenberg. There I saw two familiar faces from Fort Bend County – Anise Divin and Shelley Wong – and their knowledge about this area is quite interesting. 

A boisterous tavern and a general store welcomed new settlers, and one of the earliest Texas newspapers printed from San Felipe from 1829 to 1832.The paper was the unofficial voice of the Texas revolution movement.

Standing on the quiet prairie surrounding a huge granite statue of Stephen F. Austin, it’s hard to picture the area as a gateway boom town to the new frontier. The on-site museum, modeled after the Josey General Store that once served the community, is deceiving. The outside appears simple and plain, but the inside is chocked full of first-rate educational posters and artifacts.

There’s a replica of the original land grant book, and I was grateful when Shelley showed me the painstakingly neat land book. Copies of paintings of the early days of San Felipe are on display as are toys children love figuring out.

Shelley and Anise kept us entertained with stories about the early settlers, especially of the women who played an important part in Texas history. They also knew some of the descendants of those early settlers, and many of the names are still prominent in current Fort Bend County community endeavors.

 Exploring the Site

Reluctantly we left the museum and wandered over to a log cabin. Built in the shot-gun style, a room on one side of the breezeway has a big box of Lincoln Logs where children can build their own log cabins.

Behind the log cabin is a field separated from the property by a wooden fence built in the same style the early Texans used. The field beyond the fence was dotted with vibrant wildflowers and yellow butterflies, and I wondered how many people had stood in this same spot, looking at an open land filled with possibilities and opportunity.

The historical site is located at 15945 FM 1458 just south of Interstate 10 east of Sealy. There are plans to build an Austin Colony Museum across the street and to fill it with artifacts from the site.

 Do yourself a favor. Take a leisurely drive north on State Highway 36 and enjoy the open farmlands and prairies along the way. So much has changed in Texas, and it’s easy to think skyscrapers and shopping malls have taken over the land.

Until you look out over an open meadow in San Felipe and see the dream that called so many to this wide-open land we call Texas.

 This column was originally published in The Fort Bend Herald.

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Mother’s Day – ‘ sleep tight until the morning light’

Walking past dozens of Mother’s Day cards in the store, I can’t help thinking of all of those who’ve lost their mother, and how much their hearts must ache whenever this holiday rolls around. Even if your mother is still alive or is sadly no longer here, there is one thing that lasts forever – their advice.

On this Mother’s Day, I’d like to share some of the gems I’ve heard, not only from my mom but from the women in my life I consider “mom figures” for their zest for living, strength in getting up when life knocked them down and honesty in telling me to pull on my big-girl pants and get on with life when I needed  a kick start.

“Your face will freeze like that.” This line was my least favorite as a kid. I vowed I’d never say those words to my children, but when my youngest son stuck out his tongue at me, they came tumbling out of my mouth. The result wasn’t what I expected.

“Really!” he said, his eyes getting big. “Can my face really freeze like this because that would be so cool.”

So much for that gem.

You need to clean your plate because there are starving children in China.” I can blame my constant battle with the scale on these few words because, growing up Catholic, guilt was the cornerstone of my life.  

No way I could ever leave those green beans on the plate and not picture the starving Chinese as I tried to go to sleep. Believing my sons would share my same guilt when I piled green beans on their plate, I did not get the same reaction.

“Not even starving Chinese people would eat those green beans,” they said.

My Cajun grandmother could always be counted on to say something mysterious about life. One summer, she was visiting and saw me eat the soft part of my sandwich and leave the crust on the plate.

“If you don’t eat the crust, you won’t have lace on your blouse,” she said. I gobbled up the crust, never thinking she might be pulling my leg to get me to eat all my lunch.

I tried that approach on my nieces when they were young. They looked at me and said, “Aunt Denise, eating the crust won’t put lace on your blouse. Lace comes from the store.”

How come I wasn’t that smart at five?

My mom, however, is the deep well of wise words. When I was pregnant, I always carried the baby at least two weeks past my due date.

“When the apple’s ripe, it will fall from the tree,” my mother said over and over.

Ten days after my due date, she said those words for the hundredth time, and my volcanic reply was I hoped that apple rotted.

Despite the clichés, there are words from the smart women in my life I’ll always treasure. My aunt’s words to me when I was an ugly duckling seventh grader: “What counts is what’s in your heart and your head, not what you look like on the outside, even though you are beautiful.”

And, my favorite words:  “sleep tight until the morning light” as my mom kissed me on the forehead and tucked the covers up under my chin before gently turning out the light.

Because they meant so much to me, I’ve said those words to my boys when I tucked them into bed, and I whisper them to my grandchildren when they spend the night.

On this Mother’s Day, I hope all moms, including dads, aunts, friends, cousins and grandmothers who serve as mom,  have a happy and blessed Mother’s Day.

 This column was originally published in The Fort Bend Herald.

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Finding calm in the storm

I realized I might be over the edge when I stood behind an elderly lady in the drugstore line, tapping my feet and rolling my eyes as she was taking forever to decide between writing a check or using a credit card.

I was convinced I was out of control when the slow cashier – who made the mistake of asking me if I wanted to apply for a store credit card – got the full brunt of my exasperation when I grabbed my shopping bag out of her hand and stomped out of the store.  

Did these two not realize the people in the line at five in the afternoon were hungry and tired?

Two miles down the road, I realized I’d left one of the shopping bags in the store. I was too far down the road in heavy traffic to go back, and I let out a scream in frustration.

People are so stupid, I fumed as we all came to a grinding rush-hour halt. My mood didn’t improve as I looked at the people in the cars around me.

One young girl was checking the messages on her cell phone. Typical, I thought.

A young woman in another car was talking on her cell phone. Figures, I thought.

One man was hunched over his mini van’s steering wheel, his head turned to one side as he stared out the window. I know how you feel buddy, I thought.

Horns were blaring, but that was a far distant noise because my thoughts kept guiltily returning to the elderly lady in the line. Her only crime was being a little addled. She wasn’t purposefully out to get me, so why had I blown a fuse.

The rationalizations kicked in. I was tired. I was running late. The sales clerk was a moron.

These weren’t answers.

They were excuses.

I looked again at the people around me. The young girl checking her cell phone was driving a beat-up car, and there was a community college tag hanging from her rear-view mirror. Instead of thinking she was gossiping , maybe she was reassuring her mother she was on her way home.

The young woman on her cell next to me was laughing, totally tuning out the frustration I’d been feeling. I realized she’d found the silver lining in the traffic situation.

The man hunched over his steering wheel looked exhausted. Perhaps he’d been up since dawn, making the commute to a job so he could support his family, putting his needs behind the needs of his family.

I could be wrong about all these people, but just thinking their path was worse than mine opened up a flood gate of empathy and the anger left. In its place was shame, so I made a promise that the next time I was in line, I’d remember the manners my mother taught me and not take out my bad mood on an innocent person.

The next day, I was in line at the grocery store and found myself behind an elderly gentleman. He was fumbling with the change in his pocket and apologized for taking so long.

“That’s no problem, sir,” I said. “You take your time. I’m in no hurry.”

He smiled and so did I. That little change in attitude on my part made all the difference in the world to both of us. I can’t guarantee my frustration won’t boil over again, but there was calm in the check-out line instead of anger.

And calm in my soul.

 This column was originally published in The Fort Bend Herald.

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